By Peter Stanford, Afterword by Dorothy Rowe The death of a child is seldom discussed. This is for those who experience such tragedies, the shock and the loss. The Death of a Child is a collection of a dozen essays in which parents and siblings tell their own stories of losing a child, brother or sister, and of how they have coped with bereavement and grief. Their experiences cover a range from the earliest loss actress and author Carol Drinkwater s miscarriages, or Irish writer Catherine Dunne's still-birth - right up to campaigner Augusto Odone losing his severely disabled son, Lorenzo, the day after his 30th birthday, or novelist Wendy Perriam coping with the death of her daughter, Pauline, when…
Why do we lie? Because we are frightened of being humiliated, being treated like an object, being rejected, losing control of things, and, most of all, we are frightened of uncertainty. Often we get our lies in before any of these things can happen. We lie to maintain our vanity. We lie when we call our fantasies the truth. Lying is much easier than searching for the truth and accepting it, no matter how inconvenient it is. We lie to others, and, even worse, we lie to ourselves. In both private and public life, we damage ourselves with our lies, and we damage other people. Lies destroy mutual trust, and fragment our sense of who we are. Lies have played…
Why our Beliefs about the Nature of Death and the Purpose of Life Dominate our Lives By Dorothy Rowe  In the battle between the militant atheists and the dogmatic believers comes the calm, clear voice of eminent psychologist Dorothy Rowe “Too often those who write about religion seek to convert, inflame, or condemn. At a time when belief in God has never been more controversial and debated, the sane, balanced and wise voice of Dorothy Rowe comes as manna from heaven.” - Peter Stanford, Catholic writer, broadcaster and biographer "An important and moving account of our beliefs in life and death." - Lewis Wolpert FRS, Emeritus Professor, Cell and Developmental Biology, University College, London "Dorothy Rowe brings a refreshingly sane…
Written with her usual laserlike clarity and brilliant simplicity, Dorothy Rowe has tackled a much neglected subject. Drawing this time on her own personal experiences as well as a rich vein of interviews and case studies, this book is a revelation to anyone who has struggled with the pain of brotherhood or sisterhood. I relished every word, and, as usual after finishing Dorothy's books, the shape of my life seems clearer now than it was before. Tim Lott Part exploration, part thriller, part practical user's manual, this brilliant book reaches deep and far into a relationship that has marked nearly all of us with scars, seen and unseen. Its themes are power, pain, passion, greed ,treachery, fear and the possibility of…
'This book has saved my life', say thousands of people who have changed their lives forever after reading Depression: The Way Out of Your Prison over the past decade.  Depression is the experience of a terrible isolation, of being alone in a prison. But by understanding how we build the prison of depression we can dismantle it forever. Dorothy Rowe gives us a way of understanding depression, allowing us to take charge of our lives. She shows it is not an illness requiring drugs but a defence we use to hold ourselves together when we feel our lives falling apart. This completely updated second edition takes account of recent changes in the NHS and includes information on services available for…
First published in 1983, when it won the MIND Book of the Year award, this best selling book has helped thousands of people to break free from the prison of depression with a clear, simple approach to a subject that is often clouded with jargon. Dorothy Rowe uses humour and stories from real life to illustrate both what defines depression and how it can be defeated through a true understanding of its causes.Depression and its allied problems are seen as the root causes of rising suicide rates, marriage break-ups, family breakdowns, misuse of drugs and many of the psychological problems that beset the modern world. "Depression: The way out of your prison" is a proven self help guide as well…
"Dorothy Rowe’s is the calm voice of reason in an increasingly mad world."Sue Townsend In the modern world, fear is the great unmentionable. We fear loss, bereavement, old age, death, rejection and failure – but most of all the annihilation of the self. Yet all of this we keep to ourselves, wary of being seen to be weak. But, as the renowned psychologist Dorothy Rowe argues, it is only by having the courage to acknowledge and face our fears that we can find sustaining happiness. In Beyond Fear, a book that has changed the lives of thousands of people, Dorothy Rowe explains how to recognize the need for change and how to bring it about. Listen to Dorothy discuss Beyond…
Second Edition - September 2002 First published in 1987, Beyond Fear has changed the lives of thousands of people. In this second edition, the renowned psychologist Dorothy Rowe examines the changes in the psychiatric system since 1987 in the context of showing how most of our suffering comes from our greatest fear, that of being annihilated as a person, when we shall disappear like a puff of smoke in the wind, never to have existed. feel this fear whenever others humiliate or belittle us, or whenever we discover a serious discrepancy between what we thought our life was and what it actually is. The greater our fear, the more desperate our defence against it, the most desperate of defences being…
Fear is one of the great unmentionables. Weight gain or loss, bereavement, death, rejection, failure, but most of annihilation of the self. Yet all of this we keep to ourselves, afraid of being thought weak. Denying our fear of self destruction, around which our entire sense of self is built can have profound effects upon ourselves and those around us in later life. It can lead to physical illness, like anorexia or to mental problems, such as panic attacks, depression and schizophrenia. It lies within our power to break this pattern, discovering greater happiness in our lives. In Beyond Fear, eminent psychologist Dorothy Rowe explains how to recognize the need for change and how to bring it about. "This is…
Available since 4th September 2000, The paperback edition was published in September 2001, with the same cover. One of our most admired and loved psychologists turns her attention to the essence of the good relationship, and why we need enemies as well as friends. The desire for friendship is fundamental to everyone - without friendship no amount of wealth, fame, power or achievement will bring us happiness, and changes in society mean that friendship is more important than ever, as we look to friends for the support and closeness that in the past would have been assumed to come fiim family networks. Friendship at its best can be both glorious and precious. Yet, if human beings crave good relationships, they…
Everyone fears aging. Now that life expectancy in the developed world is securely three score and ten, fear of imminent death has receded and it has been replaced by a dread of getting old. While our definition of 'old' is dependent on the age we have reached - in out 20's we worry about turning 30, in out 30's we worry about turning 40 , in our 50's we worry about turning 60 and becoming an old age pensioner or 'senior citizen' - we all share a horror of becoming one of those forgetful, incapacitated, ludicrous figures which our parents, aunts, uncles, once so young and vigorous, may have become. What is more we let our fear of aging spoil…
It is possible to be truly successful as a person? Or must we, as most of us do, continue to live our lives feeling in some way trapped and oppressed, frustrated, irritable, haunted by worries and regrets, creating misery for ourselves and others? In the Successful Self Dorothy Rowe shows us how to live more comfortably and creatively within ourselves by achieving a fuller understanding how how we experience our existence and how we perceive its annihilation. She demonstrates how to develop the social and personal skills we lack, retaining the uniqueness of our individuality while becoming an integral part of the life around us and learning how to value and accept ourselves. With characteristic originalty, clarity and unfailing wisdom,…
No one, anywhere, escapes the power and effects of money. How we feel about money is central to how we live our lives. It is inextricably involved in the way in which we construct our world - the way we think, the way we interact, the way we order our priorities, the way we maintain our sense of identity. Understanding money is a matter of understanding ourselves. Yet financiers, politicians and most economists present their theories about the economy and all that hinges on it as being entirely objective, uninfluenced by their personal attitudes, opinions, beliefs, fears and needs. The Real Meaning of Money psychologist Dorothy Rowe unravels the vastly complex network of paradoxes making up our daily lives to…
Can we live without enemies? The human species is facing extinction, not merely from nuclear war but also, and perhaps more likely, from the destruction of the resources of the planet. Is it possible for us to change? To organize a peaceful, sharing society? To live in a world without enemies - and so avoid extinction as a species. Dorothy Rowe outlines the painful process of change which all of us, all nationals, races and creeds, will have to undertake to establish the forgiveness and reconciliation necessary to secure the continuation of the human race. Many people know about the peril facing us - but many deny it. Dorothy Rowe describes the forms this denial takes and the effects such…
Dorothy Rowe's books render the self-help industry redundant. If you want to know the secret of life, including how to make your life rich and fulfilling, read Dorothy Rowe The central theme of all Dorothy Rowe's work is that, while the world might seem to be solid and real, physically constituted as we are, we can never know reality directly but only the meanings we have created about reality. Many people do not understand this and instead think that they, the world and the moral rules they live by are an absolute and accurate representation of reality. Thus when they are beset by life's problems, they make mistakes, feel trapped and often despair. They do not understand that they are free…
First published as The Construction of Life and Death The way in which we perceive death shapes the fundamental patten of our lives, the very core of our existence. Fear death and we live pessimistically in its shadow; learn to accept it and life's possibilities open up as splendidly varied, infinitely exciting, precious beyond price. Drawing on personal interviews and her deep insight into the practices of psychotherapy today, eminent psychologist Dorothy Rowe reveals how we structure our lives - how, out of the formless chaos of reality we give meaning and purpose to our existence through the influences of different cultures, languages and beliefs. With true warmth and humour, Dorothy Rowe challenges us to find out own ways of…
First published as The Experience of Depression "I remember feeling very isolated. For a while I became convinced that I was set apart. Everyone seemed so well and confident. I marvelled that they were able to get through the day." Joan had a happy family and a nice home but saw no point in living and further; mary feared that no one would notice if she died; John desperately need someone to talk to about the death of a close friend; Joe tried to murder the girl he loved; Dave's aggression went either against himself or the world. Depression is the greatest isolation that we can experience, a prison which we build for ourselves. Just as we build it, so…
To be human is to suffer. We enter this world expecting that we can have everything, but we learn very quickly that we can't always get what we want. The accompanying and constant feelings of loss, anger, aggression, resentment and sadness can dominate us for the rest of our lives. The strategies that we evolve to cope with these feelings - greed for possessions or power, a propensity for assuming responsibility for everything, saddling ourselves with guilt for the world, martyrdom, envy or utter selfishness - do not lead to happiness. But Dorothy Rowe shows us how, once we understand the nature of our longing and the conditions that prevent its fulfillment, we can arrive at a state of wanting…
Depression: the imprisoning experience of isolation and fear which comes when we realize that there is a serious discrepancy between what we thought our life is and what it actually is. From birth onwards we create our own worlds of meaning. Challenged seriously enough, these worlds can crumble, leaving us despairing, frightened, isolated, helpless. But we are not helpless. We can resolve to save ourselves by embarking on a journey of understanding and self-acceptance, and, finally, forever, break free of the bonds of depression. "Wise and witty, factual and poetic, and a luminous path to self-understanding for all of us."Jill Tweedie "This splendid book is a vastly readable, greatly enjoyable lifeline. Use it if you're depressed, to help yourself. Read…
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